
Throughout the year, culinary school curriculums come to a close, and a seemingly endless crop of eager young cooklings are unleashed onto the world. Hopefully some of you reading this now fall into that category in which case 1. congrats on graduating! and 2. listen up. There’s a scary new land before you, and you’ll have to navigate it with some determination, a bit of luck and maybe a word or two of wisdom >ahem<.
I’ve run most of the spectrum in the pastry business. Pretty traditionally, I started out as a student. I became an intern at my school after graduating, then went off and became a cook, then a higher-level cook. You know how most of the rest goes: sous chef, pastry chef, executive pastry chef. I even spent some time teaching at my alma mater, really driving home the circle of life to all my students. Here’s what I’ve gleaned from those years that I can try and give back to those starting out. I like to think of it as my Bill and Ted moment; what my future self would tell me to better navigate the waters ahead.
- You don’t know sh*t.
Sorry to break it to you, but it’s the truth. I know, I know, that’s the last thing you want to hear after you’ve just sold your soul in student loans and spent however many months and years working for a shiny degree to put on the fridge. But I don’t care where you graduated from, or who you learned from, or how high in your class you were, or where you staged. You. Don’t. Know. Sh*t. Now that doesn’t mean your time at school was wasted or that you’ve just made a terrible (and expensive) mistake, far from it. In my opinion going to school is never a bad idea, and there are many merits to attending culinary school. Hell, I did it myself and don’t regret it at all. But understand that what you’ve just accomplished is the creation of a foundation to take out into the real world so you can actually start learning. You’ve basically just learned how to learn, because at the end of the day there is no substitute for the real thing.
So don’t be surprised when you start your first job and feel like a fish out of water. Like things are moving way too fast, and there’s too much to remember and that your hands and brain have suddenly parted ways and that you actually aren’t cut out for the kitchen at all and maybe shouldn’t have switched careers or that you should’ve been a lawyer like your parents wanted in the first place. This is called freaking the f*ck out, and it’s normal. You’re just acclimating to the real world, having left the safety of your tiny little schoolyard bubble. It may take a month or six or more, but eventually, if you put your all into it, you’ll get the hang of things and realize that you can do this. And if you’re smart, you’ll…
- Shut up, put your head down, and work.
When trying to make a good impression during a stage or just starting out on the job, one of the worst things you can do is prattle on about how you did things when you were at school and start name dropping what chefs you learned from or staged with and how amazing it all was. I’m going to repeat myself: this is one of the worst things you can do, only surpassed by accidentally cutting off your dominant hand or something similar.
Sadly, this is a pretty common scenario, and it drives me absolutely nuts. I mean I get it, you just want to fit in, impress your coworkers/Chef, prove your worth. But that’s not what happens. Instead everyone thinks you’re a brat that cares more about where you’ve been then where you are. So unless you’re asked, no one cares that your school had a rotovap or that you spent three weeks at Pierre Hermes’ shop in Paris.
All that anyone will care about is that you can do your job, day in and day out, without complaint. Which is why the absolute best thing you can do when you start your first job or land a great stage is shut up, listen hard to everything everyone tells you, write down everything everyone tells you, keep your eyes open, open your mouth only to ask questions when you have them and then when you’re given a task, put your head down and do it with complete focus. Even if and when you screw things up, as long as you do so with an “all business” demeanor, you’ll be gravy. This sounds simple, and yet it is such a rarity that should you actually follow this advice, you will take on the visage of a tiny little nugget of gold to your Chef.
Shut up. Pay attention. Work hard. The harder you work the better off you’ll be in the end, because…
- No one owes you a damn thing.
Like it or not, right or wrong, other than a pay check in exchange for labor, there is precious little that is actually owed to you. You are not entitled to anything, and if you’re looking for some direct industry feedback from myself and countless other chefs: An attitude of entitlement is far and away the most detrimental attribute any cook can have. Working at one job for six months does not mean you are owed a raise, or a new title or even the option to perform a new task. Working in the industry for a few years does not mean you deserve to be a sous chef. And if there’s some goal you have your sights set on, believe me there’s no fairy to tuck it under your pillow while you’re sleeping. You and only you will be your own greatest advocate. If you want something, you are going to have to work hard to make it happen.
An example: I get asked all the time how I learned decorative sugar work, and what type of job someone should look for if they want to learn too. It’s a bold assumption that there’s a job that hands you the time and tools to develop those rare skills. The truth isn’t so pretty. I learned by begging my chef daily for weeks to show me even the smallest of techniques. He wouldn’t, and so I resorted to learning step by step from an outdated book in my hot, cramped, tiny apartment kitchen using a lamp I pieced together. I spent hours and hours of my free time practicing and failing and trying again. Hours of sweating, burning myself, maybe even shedding some tears in absolute frustration and doubt. But slowly I learned. I created opportunities for myself at every job I worked. More begging, this time to my bosses, scheming to put showpiece up on the front counter or in the lobby, and coming in on my weekends and off hours to carve a place for my sugar work. I grinded. Late nights, missed birthdays and holidays and nights out partying with friends. Rinse and repeat throughout your entire career, over and over again.
Let’s be clear; I am not bragging about how great my work ethic is, or giving you the old “when I was your age” speech. I’m trying to illustrate that the only way to achieve what you want is through real sacrifice and determination, because that’s the only way there is, and if you aren’t going to work that hard for what you want someone else definitely will. But even with the will to succeed, it isn’t going to happen at all unless you…
- Be. Patient.
I am going to give you a very real scenario that I see all the time. A talented young cook has spent a brief amount of time in the industry and has shown great potential from the start. Maybe some of that gets into their head a little bit, maybe they’re starting to forget rule #3 and think they’re owed something by the pastry universe. Anyway, along comes an opportunity to move up quickly. A sous position at a restaurant with some hype. A “pastry chef” position to open a new project or to hastily fill a recent vacancy. More often than not, that cook (myself included) just can’t resist the temptation and takes the job. Chances are with a little “fake it ’till you make it” they can achieve some success too, but they’re building a house of cards.
Skipping the time it takes to truly master the fundamentals – an absolutely crucial step in any craft – is really just setting a time bomb. Sooner or later that lack of fundamental skill and experience that only time can provide will catch up with you. And the farther along your resume reads, the harder it is to take a step back and fill the gaps in your game. Worse yet, you may find yourself trying to catch up in front of a staff you’re supposed to be leading and teaching yourself.
It’s hard to be patient. It’s hard to see colleagues surge ahead in their careers and not want to do the same. But I’m telling you from personal experience that moving too quickly will only slow you down in the end. Put in the time and always walk before you run.
So far this is all well and good. With any luck some of you still reading this will take my advice instead of looking for ways to disagree. But every word I’ve written so far is for nothing if you don’t…
- Relax.
Wait, what? Seriously? After all of that, how am I supposed to relax?! It’s a tall order, I know – a demand for constant dedication, sacrifice and intense focus, all while keeping cool and having fun. What can I say, if it was easy than everyone would do it. Just remember to always keep things in perspective (at the end of the day you’re making cookies, this isn’t The Hurt Locker). You don’t have to have it all figured out right now. In fact, you shouldn’t have any of it figured out. There will be time for that, because your career will be a marathon, not a sprint.
In the end, the rules to thrive by are simple:
- Humility
- Respect.
- Hard work.
It’s up to you to honor this craft and live those rules every time you step into the kitchen. Enjoy the journey.
Cheers – Chef Scott



Great read and spot on…thx chef…
Thank you!
Great advice–not only for aspiring pastry chefs but for all professions. To master any art (or science) there is sacrifice and hard work involved. You could easily have substituted the words, “teacher,” “doctor,” or “lawyer,” anywhere you used “chef,” and it would be great advice. Could we possibly (humbly) add one more idea? That is never to stop reading and learning. Great post.
Hi Ryan,
Thanks very much! Too true, I feel all success is really rooted in the same principles.I think that’s a great point that one should never stop reading and learning! It’s definitely kept things fun and new for me over the years. Thanks for reading!
Cheers – Chef Scott
Really inspiring! Thank you!
Thank you Olga, and thanks for reading!
Priceless! Thank you.
You’re so welcome. Thank you for the support!
This is exactly what I need it, I’m a pastry student and yes we don’t know S**t.
Thank you so much for this, you are truly inspiring, I’m going to make sure a read this post every week.
Thank you Chef Scott for showing us how important it is to read and learn every chapter of the book, I for sure can not be on chapter one and think that I already know everything that you that read the whole book knows!
Very inspired by you, can’t wait to read your next post!
Don’t you stop writing you are great at it I love it!
Thanks so much! I’m glad I could help to motivate you as you begin your path in the craft of pastry! These are things I still tell myself today to remind myself how much I still have to learn and that no matter where you are in your career or life, what you’ve accomplished and learned should be used as a gift to others. While you continue your studies and start your career, always ask yourself “am I working fast enough? am I working clean enough?” and always answer “no.” Much more DFK to come!
Cheers – Chef Scott
I will definitely share this thoughtful commentary on navigating the real world after culinary school w my pro baking and pastry students at LA Trade Tech.
Hi Robert,
That’s great to hear! I hope it helps your students in some way, and please don’t hesitate to offer me as another resource for any questions your students may have. You know where to find me!
Cheers – Chef Scott
i enjoyed reading your post. very true and very inspiring. i love your outlook and take a lot of your advice home with me. i wasnt fortunate enough to attend. a culinary school like most of you, was debateding for years if i should or shouldnt I pursue my life long love for baking. while I was working in all the wrong places, but. at the end of the day, and ispired by your outlook as well, i think that all that matter is how talented and creative i am in the field and what do I have to offer that will blow people mind’s and pallete off, THIS is what could make me as a good pastry chef, and not how well i took notes in culinary school (which could have helped me a lot and could have been a huge adventage for me as well). chef, you are amazing and i enjoyed reading your post, and glad i spotted you now, horray for facebook. thanks.
Hi Mira,
Thank you so much for you comment! You are absolutely right, what matters most is how hard you work and what your attitude is. Going to culinary school doesn’t make a great chef, passion does! I’m sure if you apply that passion to your work everyday you will be a great chef as well 🙂
Cheers – Chef Scott
Hey Chef,
Can I just say, “I love you” for this article? Is that too much?? It’s so well written and all too relatable (rule 4 and 5 got me thinking like, “woah, is he talking about me?”) So in addition to amazing pastry chef, photographer, and artist, you’re a skilled writer. Ugh. Like I said before, “what can’t you do?”
Ok, ok, enough compliments.
So this article hit home for me because I realized only recently that I DO NOT enjoy practicing……anything! Looking back my entire life span I just didn’t have patience to stick with something and see it through. If I didn’t have the knack for it, or wasn’t good from the start I’d just move onto something else. Same applied to studying, I hardly did it because I just lacked the focus for it. However, I managed to still get good, even great grades so I was ok with not studying. Now I’m at a time in my career where I’m reflecting, and in order to be exceptional (opposed to just average) at what I do, I’m going to have to put in the time practicing, practicing, practicing. Not just day-to-day on the job, but also every chance I get at home. Maybe not every chef needs to do this, but I certainly do. So that was actually one of my goals this year, to practice my craft more at home. Along with that, I’d hope to get over some of my personal challenges, such as lack of patience and dealing with anxiety.
Anyways, my apologies for the extremely long comment. I think I just poured my heart and soul into this one, lol.
Thanks Chef, for being such an inspiration. All the best!
Hi Oprah,
I’m so glad this post resonated with you. No apologies needed for the length of your post, I love hearing from you!
It’s just as inspiring for me to hear your story and how I may be able to help you in whatever you choose to pursue. Knowing that I may be able to make a difference in the lives of the DFK community is what motivates me to keep going. I’m also so glad to hear about your new dedication and focus to perfecting your craft. Many people assume that practice is the necessary evil to get through before starting a craft, but in reality practice becomes the craft, so embracing it and accepting it makes the whole process enjoyable. A last quote I’ll leave you with that has always resonated with me is “elevate every task, no matter how small, to an art form.” That is the mantra I use day to day, no matter what I’m doing. Keep pushing!
Cheers – Chef Scott